Tuesday, February 06, 2007
So, Sio, if you still read this, you're no longer the only purple heart winner from playing softball with me.
The umpire did pull me aside as the people were working on the injured one to say that I did everything right and did exactly what I should have done. That it was not my fault. It was a force out at second and she should have caught the ball tagged the base and moved. But instead she caught the ball, stood directly in the base path and went for a tag out. The umpire reassured me that nothing I did was wrong, illegal, or unneccesarily rough or anything like that. He said it was just that in a rec league, people of all skill levels play and sometimes they don't know what they're doing or cannot think quickly or sometimes, even good players make bad choices, or just plain get hurt in a freak accident. My teammates were good about calming me down too, so thanks guys. Brennan reasured me too, re-telling me the story of the time he broke a guy's arm with a pitch. I've contacted the captain of the other team in an effort to get the young lady's address to send flowers. Sports can be rough, still, even with all the reassurance that it was not my fault, I feel like feces.
[Update: The president of Club Sport just called me to say that the young lady had just called her in an effort to get my number, but the same policy of non-disclosure applied to her as to me. The message that she wanted to relay was that she did, in fact, break her leg, but that she bears no ill will or hard feelings towards me. She said that it occured in the spirit of fun and hard play and that sometimes that happens. She also wanted to apologize for flipping me the bird from the stretcher (which I did not take personally). So, it was good for me to hear the result, even though said result sucks big time, and that she was not mad at me. I feel a little better about it now.]
Having had a line backer land on my ankle and break it (I still have the six pins and 2 plates to show for it), and having myself broken other people's bones accidentally playing football, I know the feeling from both sides. You feel bad, but there isn't much you can do about it.
I am sure the other player knows you feel bad about it and also that accidents happen in sports. That's just unfortunately the way it is, especially in bang-bang plays like that.
Something my cousin used to say-- and it applies outside the realm of sports, too:
"Sometimes you do your very best, and make the all the right choices... and the results still suck."
Of course you feel badly; you have a caring heart. But that's why they call them accidents, bro.
(That said, the flowers are still a very thoughtful idea.)